Seven Days of Sex: Day 7, The End


THE LAST BIT

This is the final peace. I’m going to look at everything holistically. I’m hoping at the end of this we’re all going to find peace where SEX is concerned. My thoughts about this are all over the place. I want to make sense I might not. No pictures this time. Just bare.

 

The currency we give sex will depend on the kind of life you live, the kind of person you are and the things you want in life.

It used to be that society could only function with the notion that life can only “be”, if it is lived in a certain way. This way, in the context of a fully lived life was to get married, have sex and have children, I’m obviously speaking about a common society that most of our grandparents are products of. That was the big picture and it dictated the pattern we were meant to follow. The prophets, the saints, the bible, the churches and some families still keep this view sacred and to all these people and institutions it makes sense and it’s expected to work.

 

But things have changed. We live in a world that has allowed us to be exposed to so many different things. We live in a world where our thoughts, feelings and lives can be affected by things that were never really as exposed then as they are now. As time went by the most important thing for anyone to be was an individual. An individual not only governed by the prophets, the saints, the bible the churches, the families and most importantly an individual not imprisoned by the standards set by a society that is very flawed.

 

In the pursuit of becoming this individual, people are cultivated and moulded by the various things they are exposed to. Decisions made by these people can never be the same. Free will/the freedom to choose means that we are allowed to be who we want to be considering (limited to) all that we have been through and most importantly what we know/believe as right/wrong etc.

 

The way we conduct ourselves sexually is more linked to this than we would sometimes like to think. The problem arises when we are not confident it the choices we have made, and we reject/ignore the things life has taught us. Lessons are mistaken for calamities, and we often find that some lessons don’t agree with each other. This happens when life shows you A and the church (the God you serve, the system you’ve known and believed in for so long) say that A is wrong.  This is when most people find themselves in a cross roads and end up feeling in a tight corner unable to reconcile within and find a path that will ultimately work in life.

 

Sex-making love-fucking-copulating all mean one thing in terms of the action, but so much more in terms of the thought and intention behind it. We have sex because we choose to. Your reasons will be different according to your situation. We also don’t to have sex, because we choose to because of another kind of situation. The choice must be YOURS bound to only you and you must know your choice and stand by it. The individual’s reason for or against having sex must be respected.

 

Don’t for one second think that it’s impossible/improbable/unreasonable to be a virgin and save yourself for marriage because YOU failed at it, can’t or don’t want to. It is very possible. People are doing it. Some people try and they fail, because their expectation and their outlooks on life change. Or perhaps they’re seduced by whatever forces and become weak. At this point they’ve put themselves on a different path and find their sexual confidence in saying what they believed in was impossible anyways. When you stop believing in something it doesn’t make it any less than what it was when you believed in it.

The point I’m trying to make is that. Our reasons for having sex cannot be because the reasons not to have sex don’t work.

Your reasons for doing something cannot stem from the failure of a set of rules you do not believe in. They do not speak to you; they have nothing to do with you. Don’t go have mad sex and say the devout religious virgins are crazy, also don’t be a devout religious virgin and say the people having mad sex are crazy. Your ideals and values won’t work for everyone.

But the thing is you need to have ideals and values to be respected. Those ideals and values should include respecting other people’s ideals and values. Ultimately that’s the only way we can live in a world that doesn’t judge or discriminate.

Now that being said, it’s important to note that some people don’t have respect and values, for themselves or other people. When you are busy screwing at random and you claim you have ideals and values then you are not my friend and I have not time for you. What you need is perspective and a conversation with your father/mother/shrink/priest/pastor/friend/Madame/etc. There’s something undeniably morally deprived about people who sleep around. As liberal as one can be, there has to be some sort of moral anchor keeping our sexual abilities as humble as they can be.

 

This is my final verse. I don’t have much to say. This verse was meant to be about sexual freedom. I was going to make sex about expression. I was going to make it about love. I failed. In my final verse I’ve run out of steam.

 

Sex is can only be what you want it to be. Just always be at your best with it. Know where you stand always.

 

 

 

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About obialone
I'm random and unwise. I'm always seeking wisdom in its simplest form. I'm scared of not being scared, so I find ways to terrify myself. I care about everything, and I'm interested in all things. I reserve the right to change my mind, anytime. So in most cases I find it best to humble my opinion

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